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Day 292: trustnet

I’ve written about trust before, but I wanted to briefly talk about trust in this new age we live in on the omnipresent (and perhaps least trustworthy) medium of our day and age: the internet.

There’s a certain amount of stock you can put into the learned body language and life experience of social interactions.  When I meet someone for the first time, look into their eyes, listen to their voice, shake their hand – there’s a certain amount of trust that can be gained by these action alone.  There’s a bit of social bonding that occurs that instills a trustworthiness in a person.

This, of course, is impossible in the wilds of the Internet, a land where you’re lucky to get more than a concocted screenname and a picture of an animated cat.

For me, the best measure of trust on the Internet turns out to be the old-fashioned one: knowing the person in “real life.”  This is a luxury in some cases; I can’t personally get to know every online vendor I buy from.

So the Internet has built its primary trust foundation instead on brand recognition.  I trust Amazon with my credit card information because so many other people do (and, once I’ve ordered a few times, based on past experience).  I trust an email from a corporate email account because I know that people can’t just buy email accounts with the @ea.com tacked onto the end of it.  I trust Wikipedia to be a somewhat reliable fact-checking source because so many other people use it when they seek knowledge.

Rarely in real life would we be comfortable place our trust in something primarily because it has the popular vote.  We try to find recommendations from friends, references from previous buyers/employers, our gut when we meet the person.  On the Internet, we simply plug into the hive mind and trust the crowd.

Is that any less reliable or any more dangerous?  Or is it just a different way to judge who and what to trust, no better, no worse?

Day 220: promises

As reminded a few days ago, I promised to upload a video of me cutting my own hair with the Comb ‘n Cut.  I have not forgotten.  I’ll try to make some time tomorrow to edit what I currently have (so you won’t have to watch 10 minutes of me cutting with no comments in real time) and maybe record a short epilogue (as the video currently cuts off rather abruptly).

I don’t make promises that often, because I feel terrible when I break them.  The word carries with it such heavy connotation that it’s hard not to think of all the weight I put onto myself when I make a promise.

While there’s no physical or material loss for breaking a promise, I always assume that a broken promise (no matter how big the promise is or how it was broken) will result in a loss of trust that will be hard to regain.

Maybe that isn’t true.  Maybe people don’t take the idea of promises as grandly as I do.  Still, words are important.  A firm handshake, a promise, a sincere glance.  All of these may not hold up legally in court, but they hold up in my court.

My honor court.  My hourt.

Day 50: what to believe

How do we decide what to believe?

For example, let’s say I told you that I’m a goat.  You wouldn’t believe that if you’ve ever seen or heard of goats before.  If you hadn’t, you might ask me what a goat was.

If I said that my uncle was Stephen Colbert, you’d be skeptical.  It would seem that I’m trying to label you as gullible, based on his celebrity status and the fact that we are different races.

If I told you that a recent study found that playing video games helped policemen make quicker and smarter decisions, you’d probably believe me.  Factually, it sounds plausible and you’d trust that I’d be more likely to hear or read about video game studies because I work in the industry.

If I said that I was born in Shanghai, you’d almost certainly believe me.  You could tell by looking at me that I was of Asian descent and if you knew me, you’d have heard me state my birthplace before.

Let’s imagine that you were told all of these things by two other sources, though.  One was a New York Times journalist.  The other was a member of a random message board on the Internet.  How does that change the believability of each statement?

I think belief boils down to two simple things: facts we can verify with our senses and the trustworthiness of the source.  That’s it.

As a baby, our only sources are our parents.  There must be an inherent trust built into our minds, because we believe everything they tell us.  Eventually, that trust must deteriorate (I don’t know any adult that trusts his parents as much as he or she must have as a newborn), but it’s a huge factor in the knowledge we acquire as we grow.

The number of sources that we have also grows as we age, including teachers, schoolmates, and eventually co-workers, friends, and spouses.  But all of it is based on the teachings of trust that our parents give us.

The most important things we can be taught is how to create and evaluate trust.  It forms our entire system of beliefs, both of academic knowledge and of things beyond the realm of academia: love, religion, elves.

None of this ground-breaking.  It’s probably nothing that you haven’t thought about before.  But I thought it was an important mental journey to take, if only to file away for when I eventually become a parent myself.

Also, focusing on trust is a integral part of being good at any job.  So, that’s something I can continue to work on right now.  That, and I am actually a goat.

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