What's love got to do with it?
So everyone's doing this thing with the 6 things and the comments and the guessing. I didn't really dig doing another one of those, and those post a comment and I'll tell you what I like about you is more my style.
So here's my offer. Post a comment to this and I will reply and tell you the three things I most like about you and the three things I like least (or dislike) about you. Pull no punches. I won't hold back.
So comment. If you dare.
15 Comments:
C'mon, Scott. Do it.
-Zach
Zach:
+ You have a good sense of humor, or at least one that matches mine
- I've always seen you as having a haughty, critical, and better-than-thou attitude
+ You actually make decisions, which is a skill in itself, as well as adding to the aura you exhibit of a grounded, "real" person among college kids
- Your self-doubt and self-loathing annoy me to no end.
+ You really strive to be a writer, actively reading and writing, for which I admire you because it is much harder than it looks
- At times, it seems as if you are unfeeling, as if you don't want to make a connection with or care about anyone else in the world
ooo.
Good call. I'd rather have honesty, good and bad, than excessive praise. I've known you for about a semester, but give it a shot.
I'll take it!
Aar"I dare."on
Yin:
+ You like playing games, which I like in a person. I feel most comfortable playing co-op video games with you, for some reason
- You don't seem to ever open up. It's hard to talk to you about the meaty "stuff" of life.
+ You're irreverent and silly and spontaneous. You just pick up and do something, which is rare.
- You're irresponsible with your academics, which - although it may be none of my business - really does annoy me.
+ You evaluate yourself and seem to want to do better (in the big, worldy sense), which is commendable in someone our age.
- You're a pushover sometimes. Stand up for yourself more, buddy.
Tasse:
+ You remind me of one of my best friends in high school (Danny Hopper), who was always funny and made me laugh. Incidentally, he's now trying to break into the stand-up circuit in the big NYC.
- You run with the WASP crowd, which has always seemed a bit too exclusive and superior for my taste.
+ You are somehow the everyman and not. You're the norm when other people are too bizarre, and you're the zany when other people are too normal/lame.
- I feel like sometime's let your personality and other people's perceptions of "who Dan Tasse is" take over who you really are. Who are you? I'm not certain.
+ You have broad interests, which include such active activities as skiing and mountain climbing. These are hard to find in someone at CMU or in theatre. Also, they're pretty intense, and intense is good.
- Sometimes, I get the feeling that you get pulled along for a ride. Maybe you want to go on that ride, but I'm never certain. I guess that means you're a bit quiet and if you were a bit louder, we would all know you a bit better.
Tarnow:
+ You're willing to try anything, which is gutsy.
- You often are loud and/or obnoxious and/or make people (even me) feel uncomfortable around you
+ You take so much verbal abuse, and yet it doesn't seem to phase you. You're self-confident and sure of who you are, no matter what we all (often jokingly) say about you
- You geek out and inside joke a lot, which leaves many people on the outside.
+ Life is a banquet to you, and you go back for seconds. You embrace everything around you and seem to enjoy every second of every day, which isn't easy.
- You don't seem to treat your woman as well as you treat Ram. Good for Ram, but bad for all the women!
Wow, this is intense. Though I am no Dan Tasse, I could use a little intense. Hit me and I promise not to cry.
God, you actually know more of the crappy side of me than most SnSers, but what the hell, I'll stop putting a disclaimer on your criticisms and ask you to have at it. I value your opinion.
Plus, I try to have this conversation with people all the time, and they're deathly afraid to do it. Why? I don't know.
So give me mine, and I'll give you yours :)
A cross between boosting your own ego and being a masochist. I think I like that.
Go for it.
Beej:
+ You're my best man for a reason: because you and I have some kind of weird mental connection that makes us think similar things and do similar things. We have phone conversations that make no sense for 15 minutes.
- You overanalyze things and think yourself into depression too much. It's hard to help you when you do that.
+ There are very few people who I want to hang out with all the time, but one of them is you. I think you're one of the only people I also enjoy improv-ing with all the time.
- You get carried away sometimes. Everyone likes a crazy character, but you do it a bit too often. And not only when you're drunk!
+ Your interests are varied enough (and you're willing to try new things) such that you have a wide range of friends who do different things. It's hard to be able to have fun doing so many different things.
- Sometimes, when you think you are joking, you accidentally come across as malicious or hurtful.
Atom:
+ You are supremely charismatic. You ooze charm, which makes people (including me) like you.
- Because of your charisma, you sometimes get away with things you shouldn't get away with. When that happens, I get annoyed with you and think you unworthy of your current place in the world.
+ You tell it like it is, and you dispense advice all over the place. While it may not all be infallible, it boosts your value as someone I know, because I know I can go to you if I ever need to.
- Recently, it seems like you only hang out with people when there is drinking to be done.
+ You can talk smoothly and intelligently about a wide range of topics, many of which are entertainment related. I like that because I like to talk about entertainment, and you do that well.
- You take everything personally, which is not as healthy for you and also can be detrimental to your friends. Not everything that happens to you is happening because you're you.
Court:
+ You're like human sunshine. You brighten up people's days with your demeanor and your happiness is contagious.
- Your attitude is so positive, it sometimes makes me think that it is either a veneer and that you're hiding something or that you have no deeper emotion.
+ You seem to have a very good grasp on what the "real world" is about and how to handle yourself well in it, which is impressive for someone at your age. I often think you're older than you are.
- You let yourself be affected too greatly by the thoughts and judgements of others. You are your own person, and you make the decisions that matter. Don't let yourself be pushed and pulled too much.
+ I feel that you look up to me, and that makes me feel really, really good. And humbled.
- I don't think you've learned to listen to your heart yet. You treat the world very logically, and it's hard to know when and how to trust your feelings, but if you just go through life with only your head, you'll grow up too fast. Or make some bad decisions.
Wow. I have to say, I already think of flaw 1 and flaw 2 all the time, but I didn't see flaw 3 coming. And it's unfortunately quite true.
Well done, sir.
Oh! And yours...as promised ;) (When you said "pull no punches," you did mean that we should do the same...right?) Aaaaanyhoo.
Scoot:
+ You are not just funny, which it can be so easy to be with a college crowd, you are brilliantly funny. Your sense of humor is rich and informed.
- It's too hard to distinguish when you are serious and when you aren't. You do this thing where you keep up an act for a long time and don't let it die - I think it's hilarious. But it too closely resembles your honest emotions, which, come to think of it, I rarely see.
+ You accomplish just about everything you set out to do with honesty and accountability. It's awe-inspiring.
- When I've had you as a director, I get the feeling that you restrain yourself from divulging a certain criticism, only to have it eventually bubble over a tad rudely (and far too late in the game). Ironically, these posts you've been making are the opposite of that :)
+ You take friends aside to inform them of some of their qualities, which is something more people should do. "You're very loyal" and "You're very fun to talk to" are two things you've said to me in the past, almost completely out of the blue, and I've seen you do the same to many others.
- In between these moments, you can seem to disappear, be it a literal or figurative disappearance. Even some of the people you care about most seem to go through stretches of wondering, "Does Scott like me? Think about me?" Why be a mystery to your best friends?
I'd like for this to happen to me.
i found scott's secret blog! although it wasn't hard when it was linked from dan tasse's blog. i probably missed the boat by a mile on this good thing/bad thing comment post, but if you have the time, i'd be interested. i think you are a smart guy and i value your opinion. at any rate, you and katie will have to keep me updated on wedding dates because i'd like to try to come.
catherine
Gerrit:
+ You are open and honest about things; you don't let them ferment and stew.
- Sometimes, your openness is rather blunt and tactless, leaving others feeling insulted
+ You have good improv skills, which I think translates to good life skills. You have a good sense of humor, think well on your feet, and are flexible.
- I often feel like, although I know you, I really don't know what's going through that skull of yours. In a sense, you seem to put up a kind of personal emotion shield.
+ Despite your comic side, you can be serious when you need to be serious.
- Oftentimes, while we were both on the board, I felt that when you spoke up, it wasn't always as yourself. You weren't talking to us as you so much as "championing a cause," which I found frustrating.
Catherine:
+ No matter what's going on around you, you're very nice and professional. Even when you are emotionally upset, you manage to interact with people on a very professional level.
- Speaking of emotions, I think you let your emotions (and especially sadness) envelope you too much and too often.
+ You are one smart cookie. Not only are you massively intelligent, you know that you are and you remain humble, which is impressive.
- Your wild ways are a bit debaucherous for my taste. Maybe this is me being snooty or goodie-two-shoes, but it does cause me to lose a little respect for you.
+ I had a crush on you freshman year. Katie still makes fun of me for it, but when you're happy, you really do give off this glow of cuteness and radiance that makes people want to be near you.
- After four years (roughly) of "knowing" you, you're still a mystery to me. I still don't actually know if you like me or if S'n'S has driven some kind of invisible wedge between us. This is as much my fault as yours, but I just wish I actually got to know you better.
As for wedding info, keep your eyes on the wedding blog!
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